Journal Through Recovery Entry 35: What Exactly Does Amends Mean?

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Almost every person I have met in recovery has mentioned to me that they dreaded the same exact thing when working the 12 steps. Step nine. “We made direct amends to such people whenever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.” Yep, that Step nine. Facing the fallout is what I call it. That is how it has felt to me throughout these last several months of recovery and working through the steps with my sponsor. How on earth am I going to be able to make amends to everyone I hurt?

In step eight, I made a list of all those I had harmed and became willing to make amends. The steps are in order for a reason. Amazing how sanctification works. Webster’s dictionary defines sanctification as “the state of growing in divine grace as a result of Christian commitment.” Note it says the state…

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Rigorous Honesty – VIDEO

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I love recovery movies.  These movies typically include plots involving alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, support groups, honesty, selfishness, selflessness, redemption, etc… that are the main theme in the movie. 

I finally watched the movie Flight which came out a few years ago. Below is a synopsis of the movie.

Commercial airline pilot Whip Whitaker (Denzel Washington) has a problem with drugs and alcohol, though so far he’s managed to complete his flights safely. His luck runs out when a disastrous mechanical malfunction sends his plane hurtling toward the ground. Whip pulls off a miraculous crash-landing… More that results in only six lives lost. Shaken to the core, Whip vows to get sober — but when the crash investigation exposes his addiction, he finds himself in an even worse situation.
What I saw in this movie was the healing power of finally stepping out of denial and practicing rigorous honesty with ourselves and with…

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Admitting You’re Wrong

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Most people who are addicted to being right never even get to this point. They never become conscious of the fact that they may just possibly have a flaw. As my late father would say, “I am never wrong, except when I think I am wrong.” He was addicted to being right, but never admitted it. It’s too bad because character flaws definitely make life more difficult. You might agree that they make like more interesting too, but life is interesting enough without having a lot of baggage to carry around. It is far wiser to release your own and observe the flaws of others. So ask yourself this unusual question: How is addicted to being right useful? Every flaw serves a purpose. Your mind doesn’t bother going through the trouble of obsessing about being right without some perceived payback. What is the reward? Addicted to being right often signals…

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Confrontation Makes Relationships Work

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Proverbs 9:8 –“Do not rebuke a mocker or he will hate you; rebuke a wise man and he will love you.”

What is your normal reaction when conflict occurs in a new relationship? Are you comfortable addressing the issue? Or, do you stuff the issue out of fear or a desire to preserve the peace? Honesty is the best policy for two important reasons:

  1. Being honest helps resolve the hurt or the conflict.
  2. When you are honest, how the other person responds tells you whether a satisfactory relationship is possible.

If you are hurt in some way, bring it up. Don’t harbor bitter feelings. Or, if there is something that the other person has done that you do not like, or goes against your values, or is wrong, it must be discussed. If you don’t, then you are building a relationship based on a false sense of security and closeness…

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The Masturbation Question

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Non Christians do it.

Christians do it.

Why do we do it?

There is no specific Scripture that declares that masturbation is a sin.

This is the smoking gun or search for WMD that will never happen. However, when you have a series of harmonious Scriptures that declare a consistent principle, to interject an act whether sinful or not, is an attempt to circumvent a consistent principle.

If there is no Scripture that says that it isn’t sin, I can engage in the practice.
As I’ve said before on many occasions. Just because the Scriptures is silent on a particular subject, it doesn’t mean that you have permission to engage in the act.

The one other side that must be shared is that again, too many people condemn themselves when they are trying to break free of addictive or compulsive habits. The Lord knows where you are in your struggles…

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An Honorable Marriage

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It was reported the vice president Mike Pence took the unusual step of honoring his wife by sharing that he would never “dine with women alone.”

Chivalry is vilified by the progressive left.

Just in case you do not know what “chivalry” means, according to one source……”courteous behavior, especially that of a man toward women.”

In the case of the vice president, his behavior honored his wife.

There is no doubt in my mind that this was a carried over policy that he instituted himself so as to honor God that brought them together and to uphold, without question, his faithfulness to his wife.

On a different note, I’ve instituted a policy a long time ago when my wife and I started pastoring.

I never counsel women alone.

Laugh if you want. Call me what you want.

Most pastors will counsel women alone.

That’s their prerogative. There is nothing in…

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