Who is this person I thought I knew and what else are they lying about?
This is one of the most common questions a partner has after finding out they have been betrayed by someone in a committed relationship. It is a disorienting experience that is regularly described as “having the rug pulled out from under me,” “having my entire world fall apart,” “having the wind knocked out of me,” “having my whole world collapse around me,” “falling into a dark pit,” and other catastrophic scenarios illustrating the subsequent emotional devastation.
One of the biggest challenges couples face is how to attain forgiveness in the relationship when a serious betrayal has occurred. Finding out your partner has been hiding behavior from you feels dangerous, whether it is an affair, an addiction, or spending all the money in the 401K. Suddenly, you are living with someone who is supposed to have…
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